The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson - Books 4 Your Study

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

                           

BOOK SUMMARY IN ENGLISH

We are wired to become dis-satisfied with whatever we have and satisfied by only what we don’t have. This constant dissatisfaction has kept our species fighting, striving, building and conquering. So no-our own pain and misery aren’t bug of human evolution; they are feature.

Certainty is the enemy of growth. Nothing is for certain until it has already happened and even then, it’s still debatable.

Instead of striving for certainty, we should be in constant search of doubt; doubts are own beliefs, doubt about our own feelings, doubt about what the future may hold for us.

Instead of looking to be right all the time, we should be looking for how we are wrong all the time. Being wrong opens us up to the possibility of change.

Growth is an endlessly iterative process. When we learn something new, we don’t go from “wrong” to “right”. Rather, we go from wrong to slightly less wrong.

Don’t just sit there. Do something. The answers will follow.

Death scares us. And because it scares us, we avoid thinking about I, talking about it, sometimes even acknowledging it, even when it’s happening to someone close to us.

There’s a lot of conventional wisdom out there telling you to “trust yourself”, to “go with your gut”, and all sorts of other pleasant sounding clichés.

But perhaps the answer is to trust yourself less. After and if our hearts and minds are so unreliable, maybe we should be questioning our own intentions and motivations more.

If your metric for the value “success by worldly standards” is Buy a house and a nice car”, and you spend twenty years working your ass off to achieve it, once it’s achieved the metric has nothing left to give you.

“We suffer for the simple reason that suffering is biologically useful. It is nature’s preferred agent for inspiring change. We have evolved to always live with a certain degree of dissatisfaction and insecurity because it’s the mildly dissatisfied and insecure creature that’s going to do the most work to innovate and survive.”

Some takeaways from this book:

• You have limited time, define what’s worth caring about according to your  values.
• Narrow your focus. The more things you care about, the less progress you make.
• Happiness comes from solving problems. So, be willing to struggle and suffer for those things you value.
• Growth comes from accepting that you don’t know everything.
• Motivation produces action, but also the opposite is true.